The Weight and the Wings: Carrying motherhood while learning to fly.

"There is no greater burden than potential. No greater joy than becoming." – Octavia Butler

Every season of life calls us into different roles, each one a stepping stone toward deeper self-discovery that clarifies our purpose and helps us to become.

Becoming a mother was the catalyst for becoming the best version of myself. It awakened something in me—a deeper sense of purpose, an urgency to evolve, and an unshakable commitment to my own growth.  Motherhood was my invitation to expand and transform into a more resilient, intuitive, and boundless version of myself—one who leads with love, embraces growth with courage, and moves through life with an unwavering sense of purpose.

Motherhood remade me. It has cracked me open again and again in ways I never could have imagined, forcing me to see myself more clearly, love more deeply, and move through the world with an urgency I had never known. Before my children, I thought I understood ambition, purpose, and love. But the moment I became a mother, I realized that my purpose was far greater than I had ever allowed myself to imagine.

I remember being so afraid when I had my children—fear of failing myself, failing them, and failing everyone’s expectations of me in my new role as a mother. Society loves to tell us that when we become mothers, our dreams should take a back seat, as if ambition and motherhood can’t coexist. While my priorities did shift when I became a mother, my children, alongside my faith and crystal-blue oceans, became my greatest source of inspiration for personal transformation.

Motherhood has been my greatest act of self-discovery. In stepping into this role, I learned more about who I am—not just as a mother, but as a woman, a Black woman. I’ve learned that the many roles I carry—leader, educator, entrepreneur, nurturer, and instigator of growth—do not contradict each other or cause me to contract; rather, they expand my capacity for love and empathy.

Motherhood, my greatest role, called me to love fiercely, to dream unapologetically, and to lead courageously. And above all, to trust in the duality of my nature and power—because it is that duality that makes me unstoppable; I can’t lose.

Motherhood gave me the courage to challenge my fears, to heal wounds I had long ignored, and to step into the woman I was always meant to be. It forced me to face the parts of myself that needed growth, to abandon perfection in favor of authenticity, and to understand that true strength lies in the willingness to evolve.

My children could never be the reason I put my dreams on hold—they are the reason I chase my dreams with everything I have because I want them to see what it looks like to live fully, to give wholeheartedly, and to grow and live a life of purpose even when it’s hard. 

So to the new mothers, the soon-to-be mothers, and every woman walking this path of love and purpose—trust yourself. Every challenge you face, every fear you conquer, every role you play, and every dream you pursue is shaping the woman you are becoming. 

Let motherhood be the spark that ignites your evolution, not the weight that confines you. Allow it to stretch you beyond your fears, to heal the parts of you that need tending, and to guide you into the radiant, unapologetic unfolding of your truest self.